Mr. Whirlwind

I like to choose my nicknames carefully. This suits him well. The guy came into my life suddenly and with amazing force and intensity. Unfortunately he also left nothing but disaster in his wake.

I’ll start off by admitting that this story show cases exactly how naïve I can still be at the age of 26.. As with many of these stories, it all started online. Living in such a small town, where everyone I know is already with somebody else, the internet really is the only place to meet men. We started texting on a Sunday, by the following Sunday I was head over heels in love with the guy, on the following Sunday we had what would be our final date and what was also one of the best dates I’ve ever been on, and the Sunday after that I finally came to the realization that it was over.

Three weeks total. Yet I have to say that in those three weeks, I gave him more of my heart than I’d given any man in my dating history, including men I had dated for years. I tend to be very closed off with people. It takes me a very long time to warm up. With him it was different. He had every single quality I’ve wanted in a man. He had a good stable job in a field that I respected, very old fashioned, lead a simple life, and seemed like a kind and genuine person. We clicked instantly. For the first two weeks everything was great. There was a lot of talk on his end about hoping we had something long term and wanting a real relationship, stating that he was a one woman type of man. Our final date took place on Sunday and ended extremely well. We continued to talk daily, chatting on both Monday and Tuesday. Then Tuesday, during a little flirty texting session where we were planning our next date, he disappeared. I had asked a question and a response never came. Wednesday I did the usual “good morning” text and the “how was your day at work” text. No response to either ever came. Thursday I let it go, hoping to hear from him, but I didn’t. 

The paranoid portion of my brain assumed that he simply decided he wasn’t interested and decided to disappear. However, the more rational portion of my mind insisted that I was being hasty and that maybe something had happened. So on Friday I made one last attempt to reach him saying  “Hi there. I was just wondering if I did or said something wrong. When we last spoke on Tuesday you still seemed very interested in getting together again. I was certainly looking forward to our plans. Since then there has been nothing but silence. I was just wondering what caused the change.” I sent that during my lunch break, and when the work day ended without a response, I deleted all of his contact information from my phone so that I would not be able to contact him again. However, during my drive home, I received a response. “Hey there. It’s been a really strange week for me emotionally and physically. Life took an odd turn that I hadn’t expected so I’m trying to sort things out. It’s nothing you did. No need to feel bad.” What the fuck does that mean?! Being the sweetheart that I am, I told him that I would be here for him if he needed someone to help him process things. He thanked me for the offer and pointed out that he was away for work. I said that the offer still stands for when he is back home. Since then I have still heard nothing. I wanted closure damn it! I still don’t have it. Grr…

I hate to admit this, but I’m sure more updates will be coming. I’m unable to leave things unresolved.